What if we had stayed together through college and I hadn't stupidly ended things? It's been years now and we've both moved on. You have a woman in your life who I am sure you treat like a princess. However, I am stuck in a relationship with a man who prefers spending hours on his video games over time with me. Hindsight really is 20/20.
Most of the time I want to say that I think all negative comments are about me. For the most part I feel like part of the problem, Cultural, racial, gender, all those issues I feel like i'm the problem in. I feel like I react to things wrong, that no matter what I try I can't be a positive force, or kind or understanding. I feel like I want to tell people I know it's my fault. - C
What I wanted to say at the time: that I hate everything about him, that he made me feel small and weak and unimportant and that it is not okay for him to make me feel that way or treat me that way, because I am a spectacular human being full of talent, purpose, promise, and compassion, an no matter how long he searches or how hard he tries, he will never find someone like me again.
I was added into a chat group by old high school friends (now acquaintances). Shortly after being added I realized how hostile an environment it was especially towards women and minorities - and this coming from a group of so called progressive liberal men. I left shortly after being added and never said anything. I used the excuse that I didn't know them well anymore and there were some guys (and women! who noticeably were also silent) in there that I hadn't ever met. I regret it deeply. There was a way to call out their behavior and I should have. I was scared.
What if I took that chance on that guy and made the first move? Would we be happy now?
"What if I lived the dream?"
"I wouldn't give up my family or life I have now for anything, but I do sometimes think "what if" I'd followed my dream of becoming an editor in NYC. Now I'd settle for just getting out of the suburbs and back into Houston proper!"
"I wish I had left him when he didn't give me what I needed."
"I wish I could have an alpaca to pet and ride around on when I feel sad about Trump"
"Saved better for my children's college education.
"What I wished I had done was not let people talk me out of my dream! One of my life's regrets!"
"What if I had stayed for another drink?"
"I wish I would have decided to not to study art. I feel like my art degree is like having a degree in Latin... Which would probably be cooler because I could speak another language. I wish I had been nicer to my parents. They are such lovely people and really tried their hardest to raise me right. I wish I would have broken up with every ex- that I have ever had way before I did. I probably stayed with them because of my lack of self confidence. I hadn't realized how great I was yet. I wish I had focused on politics because that seems to be the only way to really make a difference in this country. What I wish I could have right now is the ability for every woman to feel safe. I wish I could have the rights of a white man. I wish I could have lots of money so I could create a beautiful life for me and my husband and eventually my children."
"I wish i had focused more on my academics while i was in college. i think, had i given it my all, and taken internships, and struggled more i could have been more successful right now. i wish i could focus more right now and devote more time to creative stuff."
What if I had gotten on that airplane?
"I wish I had been able to do a semester abroad.
"What if I hadn't lied? I did have enough room in the backseat for both of us."
"What if I had an apartment full of dogs?"
""I wish I had gone to college. Right now I wish I had a job that was fulfilling and that I enjoyed."